I think it is doing kids a disservice to not hold them to be accountable for their own actions and to not understand logical consequences nor that a parent will follow through as at some point they will be in circumstances where they will be held accountable by other adults for their actions and will have consequences to deal with that will be followed through. They never do!” my daughter said “No – he will.

Once my daughter and her friend were bugging my husband, and he said if they put the toy on his head he would throw it out, the friend said “Aw, he’s just saying it. If we say will we haul them out – we will. And due to consistency, my kids know this. We don’t tend to overuse them because once we say something, we mean it. But now 12, she can remember that moment as clear as a bell and if you know the memory of a 12 year old, that is a pretty good feat 😉Īlso – I never backtrack on a threat. Just because it is meaningless to you doesn’t mean it has no value to them! So the next time you want to damage something? Destroy your own damn things and leave other people’s alone!!”. She started bawling and I said “How you feel right now in this moment? That is how other people feel when you destroy their things. I sent her to her room, then brought up a picture she was SO proud of as had made with her favourite babysitter. When my older kid was 6 she (not maliciously but purposefully as was no accident) damaged my friends’ property.

House of pain ima swing it